Unsolicited Advice

I know, I know. I've only been dating for a year. However, I do feel like I've learned something along my stumbling journey down Awkward Teenager Road (and the subject has been on my mind lately). I don't think many younger girls read my blog, but here's what I would tell them. This list is not pure dating advice; it's more like How to Be Awesome and Datable According To Kate. :) Please comment and add to the list. What do you wish you'd known as a 14-15-16 year old?

• Shut up. Pointlesss chatter is an annoying turn off to most people.
• Practice sincerely listening.
• Don't stereotype people.
• "Go and do" isn't just a scripture phrase. Be involved in your interests.
• Say "Hi" to people.
• Be nice. Just be nice.
• Avoid gossip like it's bad 80's hair.
• The whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing? Not worth it. Teenagers are way too selfish for serious relationships.
• Relax and quit trying to look perfect. Everyone is too worried about how they look to spend time judging you.
• Be nice. (Did I mention that already?)
• Life is good. Enjoy it.
• Be healthy. You only get one body.
• Don't wear eyeliner when you're 14. Stick with lipgloss and mascara.
• Smile!!!
• Like yourself better than any boy.
• Don't be desperate.
• Listen to different kinds of music.
• Go to church and like it.
• Learn to love learning.
• Dress modestly. If you can't run down the stairs without something flying up, falling out, or sliding down, change your clothes.
• Listen to your mother. She knows everything.
• Cultivate a good imagination and sense of humor.
• Smile. (Did I say that already?)
• Introduce yourself to people in your classes.
• Keep a Big-Picture perspective.
• Be silly sometimes.
• It's ok to turn a guy down, but do it graciously.
• You don't know everything.
• Always say "Thank you" when a guy holds a door.
• Give compliments, but don't gush.
• Be aware of what's going on. Should you be here? Are you dominating the conversation? Is someone left out?
• Don't be a picky eater. Try new things.
• Be ladylike. Boys like it when you are tactful and kind.
• You don't know everything. (Did I say that already?)
• Say what you mean.
• No one wants to see your underwear, belly button, bra strap etc. Seriously. We don't want to know.
• Don't call adults by their first names. It's just rude.
• Wear nice, pretty clothes, but don't spend a ridiculous amount of money for a name brand.
• You'll survive. I promise.

I also love this article that was in a recent New Era. It's probably some of the best advice I've ever read. Also, this book is delightful. I love it.